It can be difficult to approach the discussion about whether or not it’s time for one or both of your parents to consider moving to an assisted living facility. Talking about aging, health, and independence tends to be uncomfortable, especially between a parent and child. It can be especially hard for parents to acknowledge that they may need help, but with the right preparation, you can be ready to broach the conversation when the time comes.
Here are a few tips to help you start the conversation about moving to an assisted living facility.
- Choose the time and place carefully. While there isn’t necessarily an ideal time to bring up assisted living, it’s always a good idea to avoid starting the conversation during times of stress or discomfort. Make sure your parent or parents are feeling calm and comfortable before you begin the conversation, so they are more likely to be willing to hear you out.
- Listen to their concerns. A lifestyle change like moving to an assisted living facility is bound to feel uncomfortable at first, if not frightening. Be sure you’re ready to genuinely listen to any concerns your parent may have about the change. Having a compassionate and understanding ear to voice their anxieties to will go a long way toward helping them feel more comfortable.
- Come prepared. Your parent or parents will likely want to know more about life in an assisted living facility, so make sure you have done your research. Look up reputable facilities near you, inquire about touring them, and speak with staff to get a good idea of what the facility is like, so you can report back to your parents accurately and answer as many of their questions as possible.
- Be patient. It may take time for them to process the conversation and all the concerns family and friends may have had that led them to suggest moving to an assisted living facility. Avoid pressuring them into making a decision before they are ready to do so.